How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self

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A strong sense of self is the foundation of a mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually strong life. Providing us with confidence, authenticity, resilience and mental well-being a strong sense of self helps us to feel more purposeful and fulfilled. Developing a strong sense of self has heaps of benefits and simply requires an open mind and a willingness to shift some habits and lifestyle choices. Here is how to develop a strong sense of self.

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How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self

What is a Strong Sense of Self

A strong sense of self means knowing who you are and what you believe in. It’s a strong and confident feeling about yourself and more importantly: staying true to that feeling. It’s being comfortable with who you are, being strong in your opinions and not trying to adjust yourself to be more like someone else.

A strong sense of self may also be referred to as a strong “self-identity” or “self-concept”. A strong sense of self is a deeply rooted and stable understanding of who you are as an individual. It encompasses your beliefs, values, personality, emotions, and your overall understanding of your own identity.

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Having a strong sense of self means knowing that you can handle challenges that may come your way. Just as importantly, a strong sense of self helps you to trust in your own judgment with the challenges. 

When you have a strong sense of self, you’re not afraid to try new things or speak up for yourself if something bothers you. You feel comfortable in your own skin and don’t feel the need to pretend to be someone you’re not. 

A strong sense of self about being secure in who you are and your capabilities.

How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self

The Benefits of Developing a Strong Sense of Self

Stronger Resilience

Having a strong sense of self gives us a solid foundation. A solid foundation enables us to bounce back from setbacks with ease. This resilience stems from a deep understanding of our values and capabilities. This understanding helps us navigate stressful, difficult situations with multiple perspectives and less attachment.

Better Decision Making

A strong sense of self empowers us to make decisions that are aligned with our true desires. It helps us to eliminate biases from external influences, societal or cultural pressures. This helps us create the space for choices that align with our true self. This clarity also leads to a greater sense of satisfaction and deeper feeling of purpose in our life.

Healthier Relationships

When we have a strong sense of self, we are more capable of forming genuine connections with others. We are able to communicate our needs and boundaries effectively, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. This authenticity in our interactions lays the foundation for trust, respect, and overall better, healthier relationships.

Boosted Self-Esteem and Confidence

A strong sense of self provides the foundations for building self-esteem and confidence. It allows us to recognize our worth and value without needing external validation. This inner strength acts as a buffer against self-doubt, enabling us to move through life with confidence and internal satisfaction.

Reduced Anxiety

A well-defined sense of self minimizes the anxiety that arises from uncertainty and self-doubt. Providing us with a clear sense of identity. This sense of identify reduces the need for constant comparison or seeking validation from others. Ultimately, this inner stability leads to an anxiety reduced, more relaxed and peaceful state of mind.

Personal Development and Growth

A strong sense of self encourages a motivated approach to personal development. It empowers us to set meaningful goals and take deliberate steps towards self-improvement. This self-awareness fosters a continuous cycle of growth, allowing us to unlock our full potential.

Achieve More Goals!

With a clear sense of self, we are better equipped to set and achieve our goals. We have a deeper understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, enabling us to create realistic and attainable objectives. This clarity of purpose propels us towards success, helping us to achieve more goals.

More Respect From Others

A strong sense of self commands respect from others because it radiates authenticity and confidence. When we know who we are and what we stand for which naturally garners admiration and recognition from others. This forms the basis for respectful, healthy and harmonious interactions and relationships.

Heightened Emotional Well-Being

A well-defined sense of self contributes significantly to our emotional well-being. It allows us to better understand and manage our emotions, leading to a more stable and balanced mental state. This emotional intelligence supports healthier relationships, improved decision-making, and an overall greater sense of peace in our lives.

how to develop a strong sense of self

How to Develop a Strong Sense of Self

Increase Self Awareness

Begin by paying attention to your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Reflect on your strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. Journaling or other mindfulness practices can help you gain insight into your true self. The more you understand about yourself, the stronger your sense of self will become.

Define Values and Core Beliefs

Identifying the principles and beliefs that are most important to you is crucial if you want to develop a strong sense of self. These values and beliefs serve as your compass in decision-making and navigating life’s challenges. If you don’t know what your values are – how can you make choices that align with them?!

Take time to reflect on what truly matters to you. Using these values as a guide in your actions and choices moving forward is a great way to develop a strong sense of self.


Embrace all aspects of yourself, including imperfections and flaws. Practice self-compassion and acknowledge that you are worthy of love and acceptance just as you are. This acceptance forms the bedrock of a strong sense of self.

Self-acceptance is also how we fully heal ourselves. We’ve all heard about the “healing journey” and it gives the impression that there’s something to “fix” within us. But, we aren’t broken! The healing journey is about accepting ourselves, not fixing ourselves. You can dive deeper into this subject in my YouTube video “Are We Ever Fully Healed? The Lifelong Work vs The Healing Journey“.

Build up Self Confidence

Start by acknowledging your accomplishments, no matter how small. Create a list of the things you’ve done in your life that you’re proud of. These don’t need to be huge things! Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is something to be proud of. Re-read your list and celebrate your strengths and abilities.

To develop self confidence moving forward you can set achievable goals and work towards them. With each success, your confidence will grow. Remember, confidence is a skill that can be developed over time.

Remain True to Yourself – Authenticity is Key

Stay genuine and true to your own beliefs, even if they differ from others. Embrace your uniqueness and don’t feel pressured to conform. Authenticity builds a solid foundation for a strong sense of self, allowing you to navigate life with honesty and integrity.

Create a Self-Care Routine

Prioritize self-care to nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. This includes regular exercise, sufficient sleep, balanced nutrition, and activities that bring you joy. Taking care of yourself reinforces your sense of worth and creates a positive self-image.

I often discuss the importance of having a full-rounded self-care routine: mind, body and soul. If you’re unsure of where to start with self-care.. make three lists for each: Mind, Body, Soul. Jot down a few things that you can do to tend to your mental health, physical health and spiritual health.

If you’re still unsure where to start with self-care and healthy habits you might enjoy some of my other articles:
8 Small-ish Changes that Had BIG Impacts on my Well-Being and Mental Health
Easy, Daily Habits that can Change Your Life
Why I Aligned my Lifestyle with My Natural Circadian Rhythm (And How You Can, Too)
How A Simple Gratitude Practice Changed my Life

Accept Change

Embrace change as a natural part of life. Be open to new experiences and challenges, they contribute to personal growth. Resisting change can hinder your journey towards a stronger sense of self. Embrace it, learn from it, and adapt.

If the idea of change is scary to you, I invite you to check out my video: Change Doesn’t Have to be Hard! Rethinking How we Look at Change. It may change your opinion on change.

Put Effort into Your Appearance/Presentation

While your worth is not solely defined by appearance, presenting yourself in a way that aligns with your self-image can boost confidence. Dress in a manner that makes you feel comfortable and confident. It’s a reflection of how you perceive yourself! Putting effort into my appearance, even if I have “nothing to do”, is also one of 8 Small-ish Changes I Made that had BIG Impacts on my Mental Health and Well-Being.

Create Healthy Boundaries

Establish clear boundaries to protect your well-being and values. Learn to say no when necessary and communicate your needs effectively. Boundaries create respect, both from yourself and from others, which is crucial for a strong sense of self.

As important as it is to create healthy boundaries – it’s also important to remember not to obsess over them. We don’t need to create boundaries with everyone in our lives – we just need to create them for ourselves. And more importantly, if we want to develop a strong sense of self, we have to respect our own boundaries.

If you want to dig deeper into the concept of boundaries – you can watch my video: Rethinking Boundaries – Do We Really Need Boundaries with Everyone?

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Comparisons can lead to self-doubt and a weakened sense of self. Focus on your own journey and accomplishments. Remember that everyone’s path is unique, and measuring yourself against others only detracts from your own progress.

Regulate Your Emotions

Develop emotional intelligence by recognizing, understanding, and managing your feelings. Practice techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or talking to a trusted friend or therapist. This emotional awareness will help you navigate challenges with a clear and centered mind.

To dive deeper into learning to regulate your emotions you might also like these articles:
How to Remove Stored Emotions in the Body + Lose Emotional Weight
My Favorite Spaces and Places to Feel My Feelings

My Favorite Ways to Activate my Parasympathetic Nervous System
Things I Stopped Doing to Support my Parasympathetic Nervous System

Be Open to Growth

Embrace opportunities for learning and self-improvement! Seek out new experiences, skills, and knowledge! Growth leads to a deeper understanding of yourself and strengthens your sense of self in the process. I like to believe that a growth mindset is simply being able to admit that you were wrong about something. Keeping an open mind is vital if you want to develop a strong sense of self!

Get Cozy with Alone Time

Spend time alone to reflect, recharge, and connect with your inner self. This solitude allows you to explore your thoughts and emotions without external influence. It’s an essential practice if you’re looking to develop a strong sense of self.

Positive Self-Talk

Replace negative self-talk with affirming and encouraging words. Treat yourself with kindness and encouragement. This shift in mindset bolsters self-confidence and reinforces a positive self-image! Developing an affirmation practice can help make positive self talk a proper healthy habit.

If you’re new to affirmations you might also like these articles:
What are Positive Affirmations (+ How to Use Them)
How to Effectively Use Affirmations
88 Affirmations for Abundance and Success
55 Affirmations for a Positive Body Image

Consistency, Consistency, Consistency

Consistently apply these practices in your daily life. Building a strong sense of self is an ongoing process that requires dedication and persistence. The more consistently you integrate these strategies, the stronger and more resilient your sense of self will become.

Developing a strong sense of self is something that will benefit nearly every aspect of your life! From your mental stamina to your physical determination to your emotional intelligence and your spiritual growth – a strong sense of self is a great tool to have in your toolbox. Do you have any secrets or special ways that you develop your own sense of self? I’d love to know, drop a comment below!

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